Janice Shapiro, MA, LMFT California Lic #86051

Psychotherapist for Marriage, Individual and Family Happiness 

TO HAVE is a promise to receive each OTHER with unconditional acceptance. ​

TO HOLD is a promise of physical affection and tenderness, a vow to be available in body and soul, a promise to cherish, value and protect each OTHER forever. 

TO HAVE AND TO HOLD        ​

 ❤️Loving Communicators❤️ 

It's not always what you say, but how you say it!

ALL THREE VERSIONS

Going Solo, Traditional and Guided

Everyone wants to be loved, but first you must be 

LOVING COMMUNICATORS      

Communication is everything in a happy, loving relationship. Couples always are coming to me asking for help with communication. Sounds simple, doesn't it. One word, one problem. In actuality 'communication' is so much more complex. 

This is where I come in:

I teach couples how to become LOVING COMMUNICATORS. Learn and practice just 6 relationship communication techniques. Each skill brings couples closer To Have And To Hold.

Janice offers three models of marriage counselingto fit your needs:

• GOING SOLO
• TRADITIONAL
  
• GUIDED

GOING SOLO MARRIAGE COUNSELING

Yes, you read correctly. This is an oxymoron that can save your marriage when only one wants to go. 

I hear from clients all the time. "My marriage is in shambles and falling apart, but my spouse refuses to come to therapy with me."  What to do??II

The answer is Going Solo Marriage Counseling and it works just fine.

Why Going Solo Marriage Counseling works:

• the focus is on the relationship; not the individual;
  
• changes made by one changes the dynamic of the whole;
  
• when one person shows the way, it is easier for the other to join;
  
• action is more meaningful than words.
  

Criteria for Success:

• never, ever bad-mouth your spouse;
  
• come to therapy with the intent to learn, and apply it at home;
  
• no substance abuse, domestic violence or cheating involved;
  
• both partners want to continue and work on their marriage.
  

Don't expect to spend the session venting how awful your spouse is. Save that for individual therapy. Going Solo focuses on positive strategies/tools that can be implemented immediately to strengthen the marital bond.

​TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE COUNSELING
Traditional marriage counseling where both partners come to therapy sessions together.
Janice starts by asking each what they hope for by coming to counseling and how committed they are in achieving such. 
Next, equal time will be given for each to tell what is happening between them from their own perspective.
Then the work begins! Couples work as a team as Janice gives concrete strategies and tools to meet your communication goals for a strong, healthy and loving relationship.

GUIDED MARRIAGE COUNSELING

In this model, we begin with an introduction to my book, 'Loving Communicators'  and the skills to be learned.  Couples practice a variety of communication techniques until Loving Communication becomes your natural way of interacting. 

​Note: During marriage counseling, it is not unusual to find yourselves benefiting from all three models.

For more information on how to become LOVING COMMUNICATORS

contact Janice at 408 596-4810 or jlshapiro875@gmail.com.

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