Most couples come to therapy saying they want to improve their "communication". This in itself can be a very broad and vague area. After many years of helping couples reconnect and strengthen their relationship, I have zeroed in on what I believe to be the five most important aspects of "communication". Coincidentally, altogether they spell L.O.V.E.S.
L: LISTEN to each other so both of you feel heard
O: OTHER is a most important concept in a relationship
V: VALIDATE Validate each other
E: EMPATHIZE, EMPATHIZE, EMPATHIZE
S: SELF While remaining true to yourself
In Couples Counseling, you will learn all about how these parts relate to the way you are now communicating in order to fit your individual needs as a couple. Once the five components of L.O.V.E. are understood and practiced, you will have a strong and everlasting connection. L.O.V.E.S. will become your automatic way of "communicating" with each other.
Janice Shapiro, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist