Most couples come to therapy saying they want to improve their "communication". This in itself can be a very broad and vague area. After many years of helping couples reconnect and strengthen their relationship, I have zeroed in on what I believe to be the four most important aspects of "communication". Coincidentally, altogether they spell L.O.V.E.
L: LISTEN to each other so both of you feel heard
O: OWN your emotions
V: VULNERABILITY RATHER THAN DEFENSIVENESS
E: EMPATHIZE, EMPATHIZE, EMPATHIZE
In Couples Counseling, you will learn all about how these parts relate to the way you are now communicating so you can use this program to fit your individual needs. Once the four components of L.O.V.E. is learned and practiced, you will have a strong and everlasting connection. L.O.V.E. will become your automatic way of "communicating" with each other.
Janice Shapiro, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist